hearing voices

yesterday i called someone out for saying "oh dais" because it was grating at my soul and now im feeling a little crazy.
someone could say, "oh, dais" when i do something typical or laughable and lace it with love and affectionate teasing and i wouldnt even notice
but this was laced with something else, condescention? each time she said it i felt like i was being hit over the head with a hammer. it made me shrink an inch and it gave me a headache.
i told her shed said it or written it seven times in three weeks (just that i was counting is telling in and of itself)and i told her it seemed like it was always after wed had a disagreement that produced tension of some kind and that it felt like she was trying to reassert herself.
she denied it completely and said it was a friendly thing, like, oh, dais, youre too much, youre so silly, youre special.
i know im hyper sensitive to word choice, thats built into my brain. i read a sentence with the same word repeated twice and i get twitchy. but i think PR, an industry built on the micromanagement of words and their affect on an audience, is really bringing it to the level of OCD.
she definitely meant something by those words, the tone, the timing, but i actually believe that she wasnt aware of it. so now im in a position where I notice the difference, i focus on the intention, but other people arent even aware of it.
and thats a really solid way to drive myself crazy and fuck up relationships.
its almost like hearing voices. awesome.