the opposite of throwing a pity party

"We can’t change the world except insofar as we change the way we look at the world — and, in fact, any one of us can make that change, in any direction, at any moment. The point of life, in the view of the Dalai Lama, is happiness, and that lies within our grasp, our untapped potential, with every breath."

From a lovely NYT article i just read on the Dalai Lama and his unexpected realism. Worth reading here.