it seems that ex's are wreaking particularly high levels of havoc in the lives around me.
and recently, for creative and personal reasons i've been taking a close look at the difference between lover-love and friend-love.
i love hard and with high standards of communication.
but even still, or maybe as a result of that, the lines between the two types of love have never been clear to me
the transitions between the two have never been easy
and the end of either kind has never made any sense.
these are honest, impartial questions
probably even flawed in their reasoning
but nevertheless things im thinking about:
1. why is it presumed and almost inevitable that one person, new and uncertain in our lives, suddenly deserve as much if not way more time, energy, and preoccupation as our best friends, who are long established and secure sources of love and support?
2. why does lovelove tends to end, and badly, while friendlove tends to endure?
3. why is the transition from lover to friend so difficult, even when attempted with genuine desire to make it work? It's just never as simple as subtracting sexuality from the equation.
4. why is friendship, usually wholly satisfying and validating, so often unsatisfying, even insulting, after a downshift from a romantic relationship?
i haven't come up with any answers that makes sense.
BUT
my friendlove, we'll just call her J, had this to say tonight about an ex's bad behavior
(and id call this perfect logic)
i mean obviously he has problems... considering his ass is fucking crazy.
good night loves.
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